Updated: Oct 30, 2020
"In the instant of our fist breath, we are infused with the single greatest force in the universe- the power to translate the possibilities of our minds in the reality of our world. to fully awaken our power, however, requires a subtle change in the way we think of ourselves in life, a shift in belief. " - Gregg Braden, the spontaneous healing of belief.
I am more then a little impressed and obsessed with the lovely Marisa Peer. She is an incredible talented inspirational world renowned motivational speaker, and hypnotherapist. She has had more then 30 years of clinical work with clients all over the globe. She pioneered an innovative program called Rapid Transformational Therapy, and i've got my heart set on taking her course in the near future. She cuts to the chase with her technique and gets the root issue of your current situation pulled out of you and dealt with quickly, efficiently, and with life changing results.
I fully encourage everyone to read her books and try her courses, there's one for almost every condition you might be experiencing.
The issue I would like to address in this post is from a variety of sources including my own experiences. It's on a the topic of our self sabotaging behavior and our unwillingness to try something new with our thought habits and break a cycle of unhealthy conditioning.
Marisa is one of many teachers I've read and continue to read over and over again, that reminds me repetition is the way the subconscious mind learns.
"just the way sound creates visible waves as it travels through a droplet of water, our "belief waves" ripple through the quantum fabric of the universe to become our bodies.." -Gregg Braden
So onto the title, how can we work with our own thoughts to change long held familiar patterns that are so comfortable?
Many doctors have acknowledged more then 75% of human ailments are functional rather than organic, meaning that the function of an organ or other body part has been disturbed by the reaction of the nervous system to negative ideas held in the subconscious mind.
Our thoughts literally begin to create reactions in our bodies. So when you repeat self depreciating thoughts every day, you are reconditioning your mind to keep the body in the unhealthy state it's become used to.
That's why it's a choice. Depression doesn't cause negative thinking, it's caused BY negative thinking. There is no chicken and egg syndrome, the negative thinking comes first.
So, when working with changing those deep rooted subconscious thoughts, we need to access the subconscious mind. This is attained through less effort and forcing, and more letting go and feeling, imagining and being.
When you are making inner changes, when you are working with changing your thoughts and beliefs and expectations, the best method is to try less with physical efforting and allow yourself to go more towards the feeling mind, find heart and mind coherence.
Sit and feel a version of yourself that resonates on a different frequency you are attuned to. Utilize your imagination and combine that with you emotion.
E-motion, give the feeling energy, put the feeling into motion, allow it to transform your image. Allow yourself to tune into a new version of you, by changing your habits of thinking.
Both cannot remain, one will replace the other, once you begin to believe.
Become convinced you can do , instead of you cannot.
Believe you are , instead of you are not.
"the minute you begin to question something, you no longer really believe it"
Look at what you've gathered up about yourself, information being passed to you from outside sources that had an emotional impact and thereby created convictions and beliefs you decided to hold onto as truths about yourself. They in reality were nothing more then opinions, and that's all, they were not truths, and you can let them go. You can chose not to need the approval of others opinions and stop allowing those influences to limit your own self worth and self esteem.
I loved when I read this about needing our parents approval, how our parents have caused us trauma, and if only they would've loved us more we wouldn't be the way we are. The suggestion was, let your parents move in with you, they can praise you and share every moment with you, and you will know they love you, and you can do everything together. Is that going to make things right?
Probably not. You will probably be relieved that you all have your own space and place now in life and you come to realize, you have outgrown your need for parental approval.
You're parents did what they could with what they knew, at the time. When we are born they are not given a manual, and they are still dealing with their own baggage and trauma and drama, and they did what they did, because it's all they knew how to do.
We are here on our own paths, and what we've gone through is everything we needed to experience to bring us here now to share ourselves with the world.
So to keep this post a little short and simple, lets start to tie it up with some great points and helpful tips and videos to hopefully inspire even a little self love and self worth your way, maybe something here can make you smile and that's enough.
Consider the implications of words. From the beginning of this post I quoted a Gregg Braden tidbit about words and their frequency, like ripples of water, and how they actually penetrate and impact the cells of our beautiful bodies. We know that water carries intention from the book Messages in Water ,by Dr. Masaru Emoto, and featured in the movie What the Bleep do we Know , and we are mostly made of water, even our fabric of physical form, our fascial web that holds up upright is a water system or interconnected tissue.
Putting those concepts together, what we say to ourselves matters significantly.
Give this video a watch, it's sure to put a smile on your face, just his voice is so cute and easy to listen to, and it helps get the point across in under 5 minutes, how words affect our cells, Words affect water, our bodies are mostly water, words affect us.
The words you imagine can affect your literal reality.
If you think of biting into a lemon, and use a very descriptive narrative, your salivary glands will actually react physically, so if you imagined a vision of yourself defined by your future instead of your programmed past, and connect that imagined reality with an elevated feeling, create the feeling in the now, you can initiate change on a cellular level.
"Words do not just reflect reality; they can create reality."- Marisa Peer, Ultimate Confidence
This of course happens in hypnosis if you allow it, working with the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind believes what you consistently tell it.
The way we feel at any time is due to
The pictures we make in our head
The words we say to ourselves
The point of this post is, we can change those words and pictures at any time and we can learn to make them more positive all the time.
One self belief you don't need to hold onto any longer, is the feeling of unworthiness.
When you are living with a sense of self that is not benefiting the you that you would actually like to be, it is usually caused by the deep sense of lack of self worth, self love and a feeling of being unlovable.
Along the way this has become a belief.
Working with yourself consistently and peacefully, with gentle not effort practice, through hypnosis, and affirmations and dedication, you can unwire your mind, and rewire it for a life of relief, lifting the weight of unworthiness from your heart and allowing the confidence of knowing you are deserving soak into your body and mind.
I understand that even though you may have people around you that love you, maybe a family, and good job, you yourself don't feel loveable. Maybe you think you should've done more, been more, give more, always more, always thinking and overthinking.
You are absolutely enough.
Just simply enough.
You just are.
Say outloud, "I am enough"
When we have gotten to a place where we don't feel even worth being helped, but know that you are, just by being here, you are utterly deserving of everything you desire we don't want to waste peoples time by asking, or even following through with a plan, the lack of motivation makes everything seem pointless. So allow your subconscious to do the quiet reconstruction of your neural net. Listen to the affirmations with headphones, for a month. You may even notice change sooner then that. Depends on how receptive you are, how willing you want to pick yourself up.
When we feel down or depressed we feel isolated and unrelatable, as though no one can understand what you are going through. This lack of connection and self insignificance only adds to the depression. We are social creatures, and the feeling of belonging releases a rush of good chemicals in the brain, and perpetuates our safety and sense of security.
We want to and live to feel accepted and we do alot to avoid rejection.
You can feel as though you're not worth of socializing because there's nothing to share.
Start to empower yourself with new beliefs.
I realize its not a conscious thought to get up every morning and feel down, it's long term subconscious thoughts, so give these audio programs a chance.
Do the very opposite of what you feel like doing, and it will help you feel better.
Challenge yourself to be willing, to try.
Get outside, add movement to your life, walk.
Phone someone, add connection to your life, talk.
Touch is very important to health, give someone a hug, or something, an animal is a great anti depressant, give a dog a snuggle , a pet, a walk, a talk.
The more you practice small changes, the more instilled they will become, and they will replace the old habits with new ones, that will benefit you and create ripples of change.
You're worth it, you are, you were born worth loving, you are lovable.
I'm going to leave it at that with some amazing videos to listen to everyday, try for 21 days (the amount of time it takes to form a habit) and see what happens when you take control of your subconscious thoughts and how they are subtly dominating our daily lives in a negative way. We can live our future self now, imagine, believe, create.